Ramadan Reflection Day 5, 2019

The news will keep coming and going.  Havoc will reap and some good things will shine their light, but Ramadan only comes once a year.  Friendships can be sustained as rizq decrees, but Ramadan only comes once a year. Just as it’s mentioned only once in the Quran, it is a special blessing that arrives for a small amount of time: a single month solely to fortify your iman and relationship with Allah swt.

Tawba

Let go of the things that keep your life tied with yusra and usra. Set it aside for those few hours you have with yourself from your day to day schedule and let yourself be cleansed with the remembrance and glory of Allah swt. Our hearts need cleansing with seeking forgiveness because really, there’s no way knowing what sins have been committed and what sins Allah has omitted.

Taqwa

Become aware of Allah swt as if you see Him watching over you.  Let your hunger pangs be witness to Allah’s mercy- the iftar you are anticipating at every moment of fatigue experienced.   Now fast forward to your very own passing.  The pangs of mawt squeezing each breath of life out of you.  Al hamdulillah, as Muslims, we anticipate al Jannah. Belief in this great anticipation is the true  end of sorrow in this world, and evolves sabr into ihsan- content that brings joy even through all the sad suffering experienced, not only is it content, it is control and hilm.  The kind that Prophet Ibrahim As had when he was getting thrown into the fire.

Now what is it that gets into our way when striving for such sakeenah?  What corrupts our hearts and distracts our minds from deep belief in al Akhira?  What takes us far away from Allah swt, The Creator of everything?

You are Responsible for your Iman and its cultivation.

The mindless complications of life, of course!  It’s not just sin that hurts us.  It’s leisure and irresponsibility in handling our circumstances.  Fight your hearts from becoming lazy and giving into to easy joys of life.  These things cloud our vision and make us settle for less!  And I’m talking about worldly things here.  There’s a difference between being thankful (shukr) for what we have vs settling for less out of laziness.  

I think I should write more but I need to help my mom in the kitchen 🙂

JazakAllahukhairan

May Allah strengthen our sanity with hilm, rushd, and ihsan ^_^

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Draft for Perfection

Striving for the best will always come with a test

Struggle after struggle with no real rest
Have faith in Allah and Forgive any failure
Keep praying to Allah And forget your flaws
He’s the one in command
And loves for you to withstand
So tighten your belt
And draw out your pen
Its a different battlefield
One with red ink
So rise and devise
And keep your eyes on the prize 

Patience in the past 

Sabr is knowing your value

And not giving up or giving in

It’s to believe that Allah is there for you

Regardless of what others claim your sin

Perhaps you have no control in this world

But you have the universe to call your friend

And those who have already reached their end

because although they are memories,  you remember them.

So remember their efforts in turbulence

And how they waited for droughts to sprout the sea

Or for shackles to be removed only to become king on a throne

You are witness to their stories and you are witness to your own

you have paths to follow from the past

And knowledge to understand your own

So be patient and be free

And keep climbing until you reach the other side

Because your real treasure lies in the shadows, beyond what any human can see

How to be a good Imam

Bismillah

Man the things that Allah swt teaches me with amazes me.  I’m thankful for all the sour people that come in my life.  It teaches me to stick up for myself, it teaches me morals, and it teaches me how to grow.

Based on a strange encounter I had with whom I had no idea was an Imam because of his lack of ethics, I decided to list out things I wish I was able to be treated with as a girl seeking help from a leader.

1) Take some counseling/ psych courses

Please learn how to approach a broken person.  Learn how to talk to someone, especially if they refuse to discuss confidential information with you.  If you want to help them, RESPECT THEIR BOUNDARIES and keep it HALAL.

If you are an Imam, learn to be professional in social work rather than to start abusing a victim and forcing them into your advice.

2)  Never insult your client

First thing they told me is that I’m bitter. Why? Because I wasn’t giggling or sweet-talking. I wasn’t smiling. I’m a survivor and trying to get my work done.  As a woman, I prefer to be straight-to-the point when talking to someone.

You don’t know your client.  You don’t know what they went through.  You don’t tell them they’re messed up for sticking to the rules and sharing their opinion

3) Never use religion as a weapon against them

This shows your lack of understanding of Islam.  Are you advising someone by threatening them?  That’s a form of abuse in itself. It’s messed up and doesn’t ever help someone.

4) Listen to what your client is saying

Truly listen to them. Emphasize with them.  Imagine what their context is. Understand them. Open your heart to them.  Be kind to them.  Look at what they’re going through.  Look at their struggles, their circumstances, give them credit for the effort they’ve put into.

5)  Believe in them.

When they tell you their crisis, don’t take it for granted.  It’s not something to be taken lightly.  Don’t slap them in their face and tell them their crisis is nothing, that people are going through worse things.  Believe in what they’re saying.  Help them get better, help them heal.

6) Allow them their freedom and options

Allow them to choose their path.  After-all, they’re the ones who are struggling, let them choose their struggles. Let them take their time in things.  There’s no time-limit or deadline on how they should progress.

DO NOT FORCE your advice on someone. YOU COULD BE WRONG.  You could be misunderstanding something. LET ALLAH CATER THEIR PATHS AND DESTINY.  NOT YOU.  YOU ARE NOT GOD.

 

HasbiyAllahu wa ni’mal wakil.

In the end, Allah swt is everyone’s Wali. Allah is everyone’s protector. Allah is the one who provides refuge. Let Allah be Allah and let you be the Imam.

JazakAllahukhairan.